THE FOUR TONGUES

Through the blessing of the upright a city is exalted, but by the mouth of the wicked it is destroyed. Proverbs 11:11

A man who lacks judgement derides his neighbor, but a man of understanding holds his tongue. Proverbs 11:12

A gossip betrays confidence, but a trustworthy man keeps a secret. Proverbs 11:13

What we say probably affects more people than any other action we take. It is not surprising, then, to find that Proverbs gives special attention to words and how they are used. Four common speech patterns are described in Proverbs. The first two should be copied, while the last two should be avoided.

1. The Controlled Tongue: Those with this speech pattern think before speaking, know when silence is best and give wise advice

2. The Caring Tongue: Those with this Speech pattern speak truthfully while seeking to encourage.

3. The Conniving Tongue: Those with this speech pattern are filled with wrong motives, gossip, slander and a desire to twist the truth.

4. The Careless Tongue: Those with this speech pattern are filled with lies, curses, quick tempered words- which can lead to rebellion and destruction.

Which One Are You?
Love You All

Reprint from the The Holy Bible, New International Version

6 ESSENTIAL TIPS THAT WILL MOVE LOVE FORWARD!

This Blog is going to be Short and Sweet today! I just wanted to share some thoughts on what I believe we need to do in order to move love forward. In relationships today we tend to fight more than we love. Please! Let's put down the Guns and Bring on the Hugs.....


6 Essential Tips That Will Move Love Forward:

1. Start with Trust! Trust is probably more important than loving. But it must be earned and learned. How do we learn how to trust? Through Life experiences! There's not a better teacher. (Advice is sometimes misleading but examples are always clear)

2. Communication! Listen More and Speak less. You can't learn if you are always talking. Give others your total attention when communicating. Working on your computer while someone is laying their heart on the line is.... NOT GOOD and NOT COMMUNICATING! (Multi-Tasking and Love don't Go together)

3. Stop the Power Struggles! In relationships we sometimes tend to posture against each other on issues we strongly believe in and refuse to give ground. Stop it! Be the bigger person sometimes and come to a conciliatory agreement. Winning is not the goal but a solid understanding of each others beliefs is key. (You're Not At War)

4. Respect Others and Yourself! (Enough Said)

5. Learn How to Love Yourself. If you don't love yourself, you will get a mate who will not love you properly. Take sometime to do a self examination. You can't lie to yourself no matter how hard you try. The truth will reveal itself eventually. (It Going To Be Alright)

6. Start Loving with Your Heart and Your Mind ! The mind is Logical the heart is Emotional. (Combine them Both and get the best of both Worlds)

Love You All

Life Is Too Short Too Take For Granted!

First of all I would like to thank the hundreds of you who have given me so much positive feedback on my blog page. Some of you have asked; What prompted me to start writing these blog pages? I would honestly have to say "Pain". In life you never know what you have until it's gone! Last year when I lost the ability to walk because of a Spinal Cord Injury, I began to think of all the things I took for granted in life. I realized that the things I thought were most important, were minimized to zero and the preservation of life became the number one focus. So, I say to all of you, thanks so much for your responses to the Blog pages and I will keep them Coming. God Bless!
I just wanted to share a few keys today that will help you move your life forward!

KEYS TO HELP YOU MOVE FORWARD IN LIFE!

1.Tomorrow is not guaranteed. How many times have we lost a loved one who was here one day and gone the next? Tell someone you love them! Go on that Trip you have been putting off. Eat that Pizza or drink that Soda you have been dieting from. Tomorrow is not promised. Live Life Today.

2.Travel the World: I have been blessed to live in other countries outside the USA. There is a big world outside of here. Go see it! Enhance your mindset and learn what other countries have to offer.

3. Have and/or Cherish your Children: They are God's greatest Gift in the World.

4. Live up to your Potential: We all have God Given Talent. Use it and stop wasting time. Take chances in life, be a risk taker. Live your dreams today. Don't be afraid to take steps in life that will enhance your overall well being. Set your mark in society.

5. Volunteer Yourself: Give, Give and More Giving! Giving is one of the Laws of Attraction. If you give, much will be given to you. Read Bible versus Matthew 25:35-46 and gain some important insight on this topic.

6.Mend Broken Arrows: Deal with any internal conflicts you have with yourself over past issues in your life. Make amends with those you have hurt and forgive those who have hurt you. Holding Grudges is Silly. The healing process begins with the inner you. Move forward and live your life.

7. Have Fun! Crack Jokes, Smile, Sing a Song. Life is Long But Too Short!

Love You All
P.S. Wifey I love You! I forgot to tell her this Morning :)

RELATIONSHIP THURSDAY! YOU DON'T WANT TO MISS IT!

WHAT MOVES THE U IN YOU?

NOTHING MOVES ME LIKE THE SOUND OF WATER

As I am sitting here listening to Pat Metheny on 365.com radio. I can't help but think about the things that move me in life. Sometimes we can be so serious in our day to day grind of life, that we rarely think about the things that move us from within. I just felt compelled to list a few things that give me true inspiration in life

1. The BIG GOD: Without Him I would not be on this earth today. He moves me in every way.

2 The Lord Again: This time it is Praise and Worship in Church! I Love the emotion that is evoked from the Praise and Worship Team. This where you can "Let go and Let God"!

3.Spending Time With My Family: I Love seeing my family happy. It gives me Joy to see my Children laugh and my wife's face when she gets a new pair of shoes.LOL (Priceless)

4.Being In Love: This great emotion gives Inspiration. A sense of newness and foreverness. This is probably the most intoxicating of them all.

5.Success Stories: There is nothing better than seeing Joy in someone elses happiness. When a person overcomes tremendous obstacles to achieve success, it should make us all happy.

6.The Element of WATER: Water moves me in ways I cannot explain! I can remember sitting on the beaches of the Mediterranean Sea, listening to the tides flow on the White Grainy Sands. And Just thanking God for making something So Beautiful and Pure!

7.Music: There is nothing like listening to Miles Davis Or John Coltrane on a Sunday Afternoon.

8.Sunday Afternoons: If you Live In Chicago. The 63rd Street Beach is the Spot! African Drums are played until the Sun goes down. People of all different Ethnic Groups gather by Lake Michigan to Groove as one. I Love It!

Just Wanted To Share What Moves Me! Let Me Know What Moves You!
Love You All

IS YOUR HALFTIME GAME PLAN IN ORDER?

COACHES MAKE HALFTIME ADJUSMENTS EVERY GAME

We are six months into the year 2010 and where are you with your New Year"s Resolution? Have you packed it in and decided to give it up? Has life situations changed or altered your original dreams and hopes you wanted to accomplish this year?

As former football player and coach. You always game planned for your opponent the week prior to a game. Each week you would study the opposition and prepare a plan of attack. But during the actual game there are always situation that would arise where you had to make adjustments. During halftime of the game is where you make this transition. Whether you are winning or losing, you make adjustments to the game to improve your chances of winning. You must make these changes during the game. No matter how well you prepare the week before, things happen that are unexpected. The key is making adjustments that go along with your overall goal or mission. Win Or Lose, continuing to play the game is the Key!

5 Ways to help you stay focus on your New Years Halftime Goals

1.Set Results! Stop Talking About it and Make it Happen. Focus on a specific Tasks or Projects and get it done. Make a To Do List and get it Knocked off. This will get you in the habit of accomplishing your goals. Make Results Happen!

2.Assess Yourself! What is your vision and how can you make into a reality? What are the Major stumbling blocks that hinder you from making your dreams come true? Can you rid yourself of these stumbling blocks? Are your dreams attainable? Make Results Happen!

3.Laser Sharp Focus! I throw this term around like a football but it is a lot harder to do. If you have a goal or result you want to accomplish go after it. Let nothing or no one come in between, what you want out of life. Distraction come easy but Focusing is tough! Make the tough decision and FOCUS HARD! Make Results Happen!

4.Ask for Help! Self-Improvement books and Cd's are all over the Internet. No longer do you have to wallop in your self-pity there is help for you in all areas of your life. Get It Done Today! Make Results Happen!

5.Execution! Make The Halftime Game Plan Work For You! You have to be on the field to get dirty! Do what it takes to make it happen. Life is still moving so move along with it. Make Results Happen!

Love You All!

8 WAYS TO ATTRACT POSITIVE THINKING

WILL SMITH IS THE ULTIMATE IN POSITIVE THINKING!

The most expensive piece of Real Estate is Six inches between your right and left ear. It's what you create in that area that determines your wealth. We are only really limited by our minds. -Dolf de Roos

Positive thinking is so important to our well being today, that I thought I would jump start your mindset to begin the weekend. Here you go.....

1.RELEASE ALL THE NEGATIVES IN YOUR MIND. MANAGE THE NEGATIVE THOUGHTS. DO NOT LET THEM OVERCOME YOU!

2.REINFORCE YOUR MIND WITH POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS!

3.STOP COMPLAINING AND START COMPLIMENTING!

4.DEVELOP YOUR MIND! READ BOOKS THAT WILL STORE POSITIVE THOUGHTS IN YOUR SUB-CONSCIOUS!

5.EXERCISE DAILY! HEALTHY BODY! HEALTHY MIND!

6.PRAY OR HAVE DEVOTION TIME WITH YOURSELF ONLY!

7.REALIZE THAT THERE IS NO BOX!

8.STAY FOCUSED, STAY COMMITTED, STAY POSITIVE, STAY ON THE ROAD TO VICTORY!

Let's Keep Our Mind Strong!

Love You All....

Realizing Your Dreams!

Sorry I have not been blogging lately, so I have made a promise to speak out more on issues of personal development, which is an overall theme of who I have become in recent years.
I just recently had the pleasure of hearing my Mentor the Godfather of Leadership John C. Maxwell Speak at the 5 Linx National Convention in Atlanta,Ga. Although, I've heard him speak numerous times via; YouTube, Web sites and other reading materials. Being able to listen to his Powerful message on Realizing Your Dreams was as powerful as any Message given today. The Power Taking Ownership of Your Dreams, and understanding what your true potential is in Life, is vital to your mental survival. When you don't own your dream, you won't give 100 percent, when you own your dream you will give 100 percent. How many people give 100 percent?
Listen People it's time to take charge of your life! You have to be able to make moves and grow your personal self. Clear your vision and grow your dreams. Stop making excuses, grab a hold of your dreams and make things happen Now! Believe Me from personal experience life is not guaranteed. So live Your Dreams today!

Love you all!